When we think about trauma, we often think of the big stuff: murders, wars, car accidents. But sometimes the events that cause trauma are simple and small and barely noticeable to the naked eye. I'm thinking about one of the most beautiful women I ever knew who never thought she was pretty at all and was always trying to correct herself. When she was about 3, she got a new party dress and was dancing around in front of the mirror. She said, "Mommy, don't I look pretty?" To which her mother, now long dead and therefore unable to explain why, replied, "No, you are a very ugly little girl."
Twenty, thirty, forty years later, that pronouncement stuck to my friend like the gospel truth. When we learn something at a very young age, and especially from the all knowing parents, we take it as Truth and build our belief systems around it.
Being bullied, told we are ugly, punished unjustly or harshly; all these are part of many people's childhoods and form beliefs that are based on LIES. We don't deserve it! We're not bad! We are beautiful.
Somehow, unless we are able to get deep inside and transform the belief, the bad ideas remain and the good ones (I am beautiful!) often ring hollow. We want to believe them, but our training, our indoctrination, makes it impossible.
Which is where TAT comes in. In the most subtle and gentle way, beliefs that may have been with us since early childhood are dislodged and dissolved. In one hour we might look at something that held us hostage for 60 years and LAUGH! We believed that? And based our lives on it as Truth??? In one hour, it can be gone completely and easily. Try it with me, by phone, Skype or in person, or with a Certified TAT Professional near you.
Twenty, thirty, forty years later, that pronouncement stuck to my friend like the gospel truth. When we learn something at a very young age, and especially from the all knowing parents, we take it as Truth and build our belief systems around it.
Being bullied, told we are ugly, punished unjustly or harshly; all these are part of many people's childhoods and form beliefs that are based on LIES. We don't deserve it! We're not bad! We are beautiful.
Somehow, unless we are able to get deep inside and transform the belief, the bad ideas remain and the good ones (I am beautiful!) often ring hollow. We want to believe them, but our training, our indoctrination, makes it impossible.
Which is where TAT comes in. In the most subtle and gentle way, beliefs that may have been with us since early childhood are dislodged and dissolved. In one hour we might look at something that held us hostage for 60 years and LAUGH! We believed that? And based our lives on it as Truth??? In one hour, it can be gone completely and easily. Try it with me, by phone, Skype or in person, or with a Certified TAT Professional near you.
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