As my current relationship winds down to a close, much to the delight of my friends who have witnessed it, I am reminded this morning of something a woman told me years ago. She was a big time high achiever in the corporate world, and her new husband was too. They were fairly recently married and she confided to me her secret for picking a husband: she asked herself if her current man was someone she would want to have a child with. If the answer was No, she ended the relationship. Her thought was that if he wasn't good enough for a baby, why was he good enough for her?
I hope she doesn't mind, wherever she is, in the highly unlikely event that she reads this, that I used her story, but it seems relevant to my trying to get this piece of the puzzle on relationships, something I have tussled with for the last 50 years or so. Co dependence was my middle name, and I saw the best in the oddest men while ending relationships with really great, generous loving ones. What was I trying to heal? Or express?
I still don't know, I think I'll take the dogs and go for a walk, or go do TAT, or something, because after 50 years, I still have yet to figure this one out.
I hope she doesn't mind, wherever she is, in the highly unlikely event that she reads this, that I used her story, but it seems relevant to my trying to get this piece of the puzzle on relationships, something I have tussled with for the last 50 years or so. Co dependence was my middle name, and I saw the best in the oddest men while ending relationships with really great, generous loving ones. What was I trying to heal? Or express?
I still don't know, I think I'll take the dogs and go for a walk, or go do TAT, or something, because after 50 years, I still have yet to figure this one out.
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